It’s been a few weeks since Isaac started school in September and it’s been quite a challenge.
His first day was basically a minor disaster — he was good and quiet on the way to school at the back of the car, but started bawling as soon as I left. When it didn’t let up after an hour, the principal called to ask someone to pick him up to avoid traumatising him and creating an aversion to school. For the past two weeks, there’s always been someone accompanying Isaac at school to help him adjust to the surroundings and teachers. Then this Tuesday everyone was a bit more confident — Isaac seems to like one of his teachers, and could be alone for a longer period. So yesterday, I dropped him off alone again, with my dad on standby near the school to pick him up in case he started bawling… which he did, after an hour, so it was a bit of a setback again. But today! Today, my parents dropped him off, he cried for a bit, but managed to settle in. Eventually, he managed to do quite well and lasted around 3.5 hours alone in school before my dad picked him up (it was only half an hour from the end of school by then). So yay Isaac! Hopefully this is the start of genuine adjustment for him =)
But what I really wanted to say, apart from a boring recount of Isaac’s first weeks, is how grateful I am for the wonderful support I have been given.
First, for my dad’s willingness to pick Isaac up from school on a regular basis, and for so gamely being on standby and accompanying Isaac and doing whatever it takes to help Isaac settle in.
Second, I am very glad that I made a right choice with Isaac’s school. During this period, everyone involved was flexible and genuinely concerned about helping Isaac settle in. Although Isaac’s only supposed to attend school two days a week (and we only paid fees for such), the principal suggested that Isaac come in more frequently during this period so he can get used to the surroundings more quickly. He ended up attending school almost every single day. It reassured me that the school wasn’t out to just make a profit, and truly cared for the well-being of the children.
Finally, I’m also glad I made a right choice with my helper Lyn. On the first day of school when Isaac cried very badly, my dad brought Lyn along to pick Isaac up in case he needed someone to settle him at the back of the car. When Lyn was in school, she also took note of what the teachers’ suggestion that someone accompany Isaac in school for the first two weeks, and actually offered to do so. in fact, I hadn’t thought of asking her, and she could have just stayed alone at home and enjoy her free time away from him. Instead, she offered to spend half a day with Isaac in school, leaving her less time for housework and rest. Of course there are no perfect helpers in the world, but at the end of the day, she genuinely cares for Isaac and that’s all I can hope for.
Transitions are always tough for children and their parents — and there will be more and more of them. So I am endlessly grateful for having a strong support system of family, for strangers who have become family, and just for good, kind people in the world =)